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Since you broke up, your stomach has felt like a hollow pit of emptiness, but you still can't work up an appetite; your heart feels as if it's clamped in a vice and you haven't slept a wink all week. We've all been there before and there's no question about it: losing the love of your life is a miserable experience. But it's time to stop romanticising the past and agonising over what you've lost on the outside, because the real pain is coming from inside your head. The brain hates being dumped. The same area that's active when you're in physical pain also goes haywire when you suffer personal rejection, says psychiatrist Dr Marcelle Stastny – evidence, she says, that your head is the one telling your body that being dumped hurts and not the other way around. When you're in love, certain areas of your grey matter are awash in dopamine and oxytocin, hormones that give you feelings of pleasure and contentment, says Stastny. But when your love i

MY beautiful friend and co - blogger Omowumi Agbonjinmi has poured her heart in this fact-finding, truth-chasing, mind blowing piece. Call her a feminist and you won't incure her wrath one bit. Not new to the game, Wumi has got a collection of explosive articles on her blog; www.omowumi-reddiary.blogspot.com Meanwhile, have a taste of this: WHEN ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED? THAT ANNOYING QUESTION FACED BY MANY YOUNG NIGERIAN WOMEN That annoying pressure on women to get married NOW! When a young woman in this country finishes her university education (if she’s privileged), she is expected to just go and get married. I have always wondered why? Many answers come to mind from the many reasons people cite to get young ladies married off as if that is the whole essence of their lives or the purpose of their existence. From research and experience, I have gathered many unbelievable and hilarious reasons why women must get married off early in life. One of the reasons is

No one man is an island of knowledge, everyone who know today, probed at one point or the other. Questioning and fact finding are an inseparable duo. If any would make anything out of an endeavor, they must be ready and willing to ask questions. Observing a wearying trend, I found out that many now do not ask questions as it was obtainable in the past. Could it be that everyone now knows? Could it be a matter of shyness? Could it be a function of pride/self esteem? Or that we are not skilled or have not mastered the art of questioning? We'll set the ball of this discourse rolling from hence. To tackle correctly and convincingly the issue before us, there's a need to get personal, and factual, directing the afore questions to yourself. Putting simply; "Why Do I or Don't I Ask Questions?" General sampling revealed that people do not ask questions for the following reasons, and utmost amongst these reasons is; 1) Fear Of Revealing They Are Naïve: More o

The ground is tough to til, Its rocky make up damages every tool assembled, The metal spoon has brought much disappointment, it wouldn't scoop the rocky earth beneath, The table knife with which I dug, has left me just one feet deep all week. The wind has taken sides against my efforts, The rain hasn't been fair to it either, The bit of my metal spoon is nullified, All earth scooped have been washed back to its place. Like I hadn't done a thing all week, How much longer will It take to dig a well with my knife and spoon? I am here the last man left in the try, The only one too silly to be frustrated, The one man too determined to bow to logic and reasoning. I'm 12-months gone now, and making progress, Progress at all is progress at all, The sight of water is near, am all dirt with mud, Amongst those who own wells, someday I'll be named, And the ones who started and fled, someday some others will be named. Surprised my tools could get me this far ? Surpris

"Conscience: A sense of moral awareness or of right and wrong. The concept has been variously explained by moralists and philosophers. In the history of ethics, the conscience has been looked upon as the will of a divine power expressing itself in man's judgments, an innate sense of right and wrong resulting from man's unity with the universe, an inherited intuitive sense evolved in the long history of the human race, and a set of values derived from the experience of the individual. Psychologists also differ in their analyses of the nature of conscience. It is variously believed to be an expression of values differing from other expressions of value only in the subject matter involved, a feeling of guilt for known or unknown actions done or not done, the manifestation of a special set of values introjected from the example and instruction of parents and teachers, and the value structure that essentially defines the personality of the individual. As a practical matter,

"JUST DO IT! What? JUST DO IT! Why? JUST DO IT! ...Tell me something else, there's something I'm yet to know, and failure to have me know it will have me JUST DOING IT." ***SIGH*** What a way to start a piece of writing I bet you're wondering. Many by now have figured where and to whom exactly the afore mentioned phrase (JUST DO IT) belong. For those who haven't, its a byline, a trademark of one of the world's biggest sport kit company, NIKE. Since its famous break into limelight, this word has never seized to inspire. At the mention of that phrase, you adrenaline pumps with a characteristic tickle in your body. The question of what exactly to do is usually not far-fetched. At the mention of the word "Just Do It" in your mind's-mouth, and more palpably, even from a person's lips or when read in a book, on a wall or on billboards, there commence a mind-scan/probe, you ordinarily want to relate it to something, you natural

"Peace for the rat, peace for the eagle; hunter and hunted, until then no peace shall find. Peace for the sword, peace for the wielder; until then, from blood stains none shall be spared. Peace for the food, peace for the chef, without which, both shall ever continue to sweat. Peace for the pen, peace for the writer, neither of the two can claim to feel no pains. Peace for the hated, peace for the hater, if they both will understand, not one is in a position of comfort. Peace for the candle, peace for the fire; only wish they both know sleep for the one is sleep for the other." LOVE PEACE, FOLLOW PEACE WITH ONE AND ALL. No one is ever truly at peace waring against the peace of another, its only a short while, and I hope not late, before we have all realized. +2348034780274

These lovely words came first from the pen of Thomas Jefferson(A one time U.S president) and are a part of the U.S. Declaration of Independence from Great Britain. As our use of language changes though, the original meaning of that phrase has been lost. When Jefferson wrote "the pursuit of happiness" he meant something similar to "the practice of happiness." Think about the whole phrase this way - "life, liberty and the practice of happiness." We have life, we have liberty, and we can have happiness. Happiness has never been something to aspire to, but something to practice, or most fittingly, BE. As I think about this concept I recognize that we spend much of our time in pursuit, when what we really need to do is practice what we want. For example, it wouldn`t be enough to be in pursuit of an Olympic Gold Medal, you know the only way to get there is to practice. This may seem very obvious for the kinds of skills already associated with practice (

Its many hours gone now, and you're still "Wanting to do it" Its years gone now and not one move have you made, instead you've had accumulated months of wishful thinking. When exactly are you going to do it? Oh, at the right time you're saying? Am sorry to announce to you, that phrase is a SCAM, there's no such thing, you really must make a time right. Procrastination is a sickness of the; high and mighty, small and lowly, young and old, saint or sinner,rich or poor. Its got no bounds, it respects no limits. There exist a common saying that; "Procrastination Is The Thief of Time", but re-branding this, I'll submit that; "Procrastination Is The Thief of Life", for it steals your life right before your watchful eyes. It does it so cynically, you hardly realize you losing anything. Like that common African folklore that pictures the mouse as eating a part of you and blowing you cool air to the surface of that part of you being eat

......By popular demand, sequel to my last post "Speak Now Or Forever Remain Silent", I bring to you the continuing episode of what went down the day. I want to seize this opportunity to thank my fans and blog readers for their followership, support, encouragements and sometimes critiques. Without you, there's no Wordsmith™. . . . ...I could not laugh enough on the day. In a funny twist of events, don't forget we already have 3-bodies lying on the altar. I adjusted my sit properly, and told myself "Not one scene of this will I miss out on". Every man for his kind, the priest had ignored both bride and groom and reached out to revive his ailing colleague, fanning air to his face with the programme outline in his hands. Both parents also took to the alter, seeing the selfish gesture of the priest, each taking to the direction of their wards (Grooms parent to groom, and Bride's to the bride) everyone battling to resuscitate their own. With the pr

"If anyone here has any reason why these two should not be joined together, let him speak now or forever remain silent" ....The priest had barely concluded his words before we heard the doors yawned open paving the way for this tall, dark-skinned, fine looking young man, dressed in a nicely cut grey suit. The knocks of his shoe heels on the floor was all that was to be heard in the auditorium, as the whole place had gone dead silent on his appearance. Startled by this scene, and confused by the thought of trying to reason out what exactly was going on, the priest could at best draw out his white handkerchief from the pocket of his robe as he wiped his face severally as if to say, every one wipe made him see better. For all those minutes it took this man to make his way up the alter, I understood better the meaning of the medical term "SHOCK". The bride, you mean what was happening to her? I fear we don't go there, she had gone past the stage of something

"Tell them more often, and it becomes their truth" ...On this one sentence I'll build a base for today's piece. Hopefully it'll be a short one, once the heart of the message I'm able to strike right early. There's this tiny little thing I'm about to expose, and we all have one time or the other been a sucker for it even in our most guarded moments of critical observation and consideration. Having watched closely, I've observed a few things, one of which I'll take my time to scratch in this piece. More of the talk today hoovers around; Truth, Lies, Deception, the Frequency and Emphasis of it. A careful examination has shown that humans tend to believe a word, thing, or opinion with the highest degree of occurrence, call it frequency and you'll still not be wrong. Many a times, a lie is only a lie on its first appearance. And subsequent appearance of such begins to trigger some degree of consideration within a regular human mind which

There's been a lot of talk about destiny, and even much more about its workings. Some believe it is the dream maker, many believe it is the determinant of all things. As much as it appears we understand this phenomenon, it remains clear we really do not understand completely, its workings. To properly comprehend this phenomenon(I call it a phenomenon), we need to observe "DESTINY" in its various forms, as a WORD, and as a PHENOMENON. To define on the surface, destiny is FATE. The fate of a person or thing (although not so appropriate for inanimate objects). Destiny or fate is a predetermined course of events.[1] It may be conceived as a predetermined future, whether in general or of an individual. It remains another topic entirely to discuss around the origins of destiny, the origins of a man's fate. Save its superficial(as some see it) definition, some will refuse to accept that it is predestined. Their stand on it, is that MAN WORKS HIS DESTINY, as everyone

....Come let us reason together! Change; and event that occurs when something passes from one state or phase to another. This could be as a result of an alteration or modification. To undergo change is to become difference in essence, to undergo change is to experience a degree of transformation. Change could mean a replacement of a thing with some other or same kind.... Change could just mean about everything in the world. As the famous saying goes "Change Is Constant", it remains a constant force the holds the earth in its spinning and its people in their living. It is only natural for man to be sick of being the same man over a number of days, months and years. At every point in time, man dreams a change, a positive, forward moving change. The life of man is such designed to desire an extra, everyman wants an improvement upon his yesterday today. Some dream a change from worst to worse, worse to bad, bad to good, good to better, better to excellent, as some sitti

"Its difficult, if not impossible to respond beyond your heart". How do I mean? "Your conceived, derived and/or imbibed idea of thing, defines your attitude towards it"-TW™ You've always wondered why you act the way you do, react the way you do, or respond to things the way you do. Hey, am not talking temperaments here, the boss (Tim Lahaye) already did, and he "took it to the cleaners'. Even in deceit, its a hard thing to behave/respond to a thing beyond what you think about it, know about it, and the values you have placed on it. Catching a golden mug falling directly towards your head for example is a scenario that captures correctly an aspect of my discourse. There exist a couple of options to this, and believe me, every man could respond differently to this situation. One of the responses to expect, which I know you know already is; Catching the mug, preventing it from hitting your head or even the fall. Another response would be; completely do

Idealism vs. Realism From time immemorial, the battle between the Idealists and Realist existed. The bulk of the contentions and disagreement in the world today still take their roots from the unending battle of these two kinds of beings. Always at logger-heads with their views, don't blame either, it just the way they are. Families have been torn appart, friends parted ways, nations have splitted in to various countries, as the centre cannot old where these two sit atop the leadership of a particular place (especially at the same or near same time). It's always and forever will be a life of arguments and contention between these two, very rarely do they com to terms. I wish they learnt to be who they are, things could have been a lot more easier to mend, but unfortunately, they grew into what they were meant to be. As long as you couldn't stop their growth, you wouldn't be stopping their idealistic and realistic nature. In order for us to be able to differentiate b

...IF MY MOBILE PHONE/GADGET COULD SPEAK FOR ITSELF, WHAT WOULD IT BY NOW BE TELLING ME? A question for one, a question for all. With the advent of new technology the way of communication is also changed. In very early days of history, pigeons were used as means of communication. Later, written messages are sent through letters by post. As the time passed, telephone came into existence and today is the era of wireless communication which gives rise to mobile phones. Mobiles are the latest invention and common way to communicate now-a-days. Mobile phones are long range, portable and wireless electronic device of communication. A few years back, when mobile phones were not so common, the device was expensive and communication costs pretty good to the user. But in last a few years as the use of mobiles increased, their cost is decreased considerably and this factor helped a lot to make them available for common men. Mobile phones are now inexpensive, easy to use, and comfortable and e