Just as no two persons have per-say undifferentiable behavioral qualities, patterns and being. Just as no two persons carry the same thumb prints(not even identical twins), no two persons have indistinguishable characters/beings.
Everyman has got unique conditions affecting them, even those enjoying the same parameters have different receptors and as such uniquely different responses to the unified social parameters.
"YOU CAN ONLY BE YOU AND NO ONE ELSE" -TW™
"IMMITATION IS THE CHEAPEST FORM OF FLATTERY"
Everyone has got his/her personality, and as many as we are, so as much our personality differs.
It's allowed to admire another's status, its permissible to wish you had their lives! But may I inform you;
"THERE'S NO BETTER FEELING THAN WALKING IN YOUR SHOES, AS NO OTHER SHOES OFFER YOU AS MUCH CONVIENIENCE AS THOSE SCULPT TO FIT YOUR FEET."-TW™ Life has been such designed that man would retain his individuality come what may, and "SIMILAR CIRCUMSTANCES HAVEN'T ALWAYS BIRTHED SAME RESPONSES FROM OR BRED SIMILAR PEOPLE." -TW™
Of a truth, there are factors that contribute majorly and if may rightly put, determine a person's personality, but none have evolved as a universal formula to generate a universal product.
There are 5-major factors I'll like to mention here, elucidating them might not be completely achieved, but a personal peruse of them by you will further impress upon your mind the same mind I hope to pass here.
Man is shaped by 5 or more factors, most of which are psychological. The base of his personality is built upon these 5-foundations, and what he becomes or not is anchored on these 5-pillars.
This here is a question of state. The state at which a man has found himself goes a long way to define his limits, as you would not have a lame making more runs than the able bodied. This isn't for a lack of intention, or laziness, but instead, the absence of an enabling/soothing circumstance. Without a further need for orientation, such persons soon get it registered in their subconscious that they're lame, and can only cover kilometers in their minds. So even when a vehicle will be provided, you can be very sure their first objection would be "I can't move, before putting into consideration the kind of movement being talked about." Blame them? No! Don't let your circumstance kill your sense of reasoning.
Like circumstances, a person's environment is very crucial to molding his personality.
Man is a product of gene-interaction, and even more arguably a product of his environment. His environment mould him, shapes him into what's obtainable there. Here, what he sees is what he becomes, he hardly can develop any personality that isn't in tandem with his environment.
A case of an eaglet hatched out of her egg by a mother hen, alongside her own chicks. All she knew while growing up was to eat worms. She'll even run away from rodents when they surfaced, and could at best jump/fly the height of a domestic house fence. This were obviously not the characteristic features of the eagle! But sadly, that's what a wrong environment can do to you, it kills the real you, and modes you into the best it can offer.
3) PEOPLE'S OPINION:
Did I hear you say "What people say/think about you doesn't matter"?
Oh dear, you'll need to reconsider that stand. More lives have been affected by the things others have said that what the individual has. People's comments have a way of infiltrating into you, getting a firm grip on your subconscious mind. At first you might think it matters less and infact not getting to you, but a careful study reveals that "PEOPLE'S OPINION/COMMENTS REALLY DOES GET TO US AND COULD ALTER OUR THOUGHT PATHWAY." -TW™
It is of invaluable advantage to brace up your inner man, and be strong at heart, not because you have chosen to be heady, but because you'll refuse to live your life on the basis of another man's opinion about you.
Many have become DWARFS (Dose With A Rat-sized Feeling) of themselves just because others have called them so.
Its about a rule already, "YOU TEND TO BELIEVE THE THINGS YOU HEAR MORE FREQUENTLY THAN THOSE YOU HEAR SPARSELY" -TW™
4) OWN OPINION:
A popular quote states; "YOU ARE WHO/WHAT YOU SAY YOU ARE" your opinion more than any other thing (well, asides people's opinion, when you give it a breeding space) affects your personality and life in totality.
"THERE'S ABSOLUTELY NO WAY A PERSON CAN GROW BEYOND HIS THOUGHTS" -TW™.
The Holy Scriptures corroborates this (As A Man Thinketh In His Heart, So is He [Prov 23:7]).
I remember againg the story of the 12-spies of Israel sent into Cannan to spy on it, their report has become one of the strongest points of reference for me whenever I discuss this subject. They said and I quote; "We Were Like Grasshoppers IN OUR OWN EYES" [Numbers 13:33]
Much dwelling need not be done here, the message in itself is clear for all to see and adjust where necessary.
Your upbringing plays a pivotal role in determining your personality. Just like shared earlier while illustrating with an eaglet hatched by a hen. The values and absence of it, passed down by a person's parent/guarding to such individual while still at an early age, goes on to form the basis of their principles in life. Little wonder The Bible says; "Teach Your Child The Way That He Should Grow, And When He Has Grown, He Will Not Depart From It [Prov 22:6]).
It takes a lot to break away from the influences of your family background and upbringing.
The popular use of the word "That's The Way I Was Brought Up" in our world today, goes a long way to tell us how bad/good upbringing had affected our lives as an individual, a community, and even more a nation.
Look no further in the search to why you have become who you have become, the answers sit right here.
"PERSONALITY as a word is ordinarily a derivation of a word formation process, which when I segment further returns to me a result; PERSONAL + qualITY" -TW™ It an arduous, almost impossible task to be greater than your personality, your personality defines your life quality. If there be any problems with it, it must as a matter of urgency, be fixed, to forge ahead in life.
In my opening paragraphs, I was tempted to synchronize and run concurrently two topics; one dwelling on an orientation on personality, and the other an awakening call to face facts and dealing squarely with who you are, and not wishing you were in another's shoes. The truth remains;
LIFE, LIKE WALKING IN SHOES, THERE ARE REALLY NO CONVINIENT 'SHOES', AS THE SIZE OF BOTH THE 'LEG' AND THE 'BOOT' GROWS. AT SOME POINT, IT'S THE LEG GROWING AND THE SHOE ACHING, AT SOME OTHER POINT, IT'S THE SHOE GROWING, AND THE LEG SLACKING, MAKING IT EQUALLY UNCOMFORTABLE. AND AT OTHER TIMES, THE SIZES ARE AWESOMELY MATCHING. IT IS AS SUCH POINTS OUR SMILES FIND THEIR PERFECT CURVES.
Hence, why choose to walk in other's shoes then, when it won't fit you all through life afterall?
Why covet another man's personality and leave yours unattended, as if to say you can become he?
It is only beautiful to have discussed succinctly major sources/formation bedrocks of our individual personality, if a change must be effected, we can trace now where the matter lies and where there exist a crack in the wall.
The bottom line is; whatever your case maybe, "MAKE A CONSCIOUS EFFORT TO WORK ON YOUR PERSONALITY, IT IS YOUR PERSONAL-QUALITY, AND MAKES IN-TURN YOUR LIFE-QUALITY." -TW™
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Olalekan Akogun at 11:06 pm